# 1 gentlemanly gesture

No.1 - Hold the door

When surveyed, around 90% of women regard this as the No. 1 gentlemanly gesture. It is a very simple one, but makes a woman feel respected. Generally speaking, you should always hold the door for someone entering behind you. Once again, it shows respect for other people, which reflects well on you as a person. An important note to remember is that you should not race your date to get to the door first; this appears try-hard and condescending. As with all these gestures, making them a natural part of yourbehavior is essential to ensure that your date receives it positively. 

# 2 gentlemanly gesture

No.2 - Introduce her

Much like taking a call and ignoring her, if you fail to introduce her to someone you bump into, she is left feeling isolated and uncomfortable. A gentleman will always make sure that his date is feeling comfortable, and an important part of this is having the social awareness to introduce her to your friend or acquaintance. All you need do is pause briefly to say her name, and position your body so she is included in the conversation. Even if she says nothing, she will feel more involved and more comfortable. 

# 3 gentlemanly gesture

No.3 - At the table, turn off your phone

It is consistently amazing just how many men will interrupt their date in order to take a phone call. This is among the very rudest things you can do to someone, date or not. When you are on a date, your date should be made to feel like she is the most important person in the world to you at that moment. A phone call means that your date cannot interact in the conversation, and is left sitting uncomfortably, waiting for you to finish. As a gentlemanly gesture, switch your phone off, and reply to any missed calls later when you have the time.   

# 4 Gentlemanly gesture

No.4 - Offer your seat

Everyone who has a sense of decency would not fail to offer their seat on a bus or train to an elderly person, or apregnant lady. However, you can go one step further by offering your seat to your date. This is a good one because it shows that you are putting her welfare ahead of your own. The best way to do this is to stand up before offering your seat, rather than making the offer and then standing up. Try not to be too ostentatious, as she may feel uncomfortable if you inadvertently draw attention to her. 

# 5 gentlemanly gesture

No.5 - Offer your jacket

When a woman makes the considerable effort of getting dressed for a date, practicality is not always her first consideration. There are occasions when that dress, while dazzling, simply does not provide adequate protection from inclement climactic conditions. If you notice that it is a cold or wet evening, as a gentleman you should immediately offer her your jacket. She may refuse, but be attentive to the fact that she may get colder, and do not be afraid to repeat your offer should the weather worsen. Again, as a gentleman, if you are feeling the cold, grin and bear it. The comfort of your lady is your first priority. 

# 6 gentlemanly gesture

No.6 - Walk her home

Walking a lady home is an extremely important component of gentlemanly conduct. It may take you out of your way, but ensuring she gets home safely is your first priority. She will feel safer at the end of the evening if she knows she will be accompanied right to her front door, which will score you big points. You can risk losing those points, however, if you make the terrible mistake of expecting a reward for your efforts. It is her prerogative to decide whether anything happens at the doorstep. If she lingers, that may be an invitation to go for a kiss, but never expect anything to happen.

# 7 gentlmanly gesture

No.7 - Carry the umbrella

Another excellent gentlemanly gesture: Holding the umbrella to keep a lady dry is a great way to demonstrate your excellent conduct. A gentleman should always be prepared for inclement weather, and a good quality umbrella is an essential tool in your armory. If there is a chance of rain, take the umbrella. If the heavens open, you demonstrate forethought and planning, and show an ability to take care of others. Hold the umbrella above her head, and make sure that she does not get wet. If you are getting wet, you must sacrifice your own comfort as part of your gentlemanly gesture.

# 8 gentlemanly gesture

No.8 - Watch your language

A very important point which is increasingly overlooked in the modern world, inappropriate language is not acceptable on a date. A gentleman should pride himself on being erudite and articulate, and be capable of expressing himself without resorting to crude vocabulary. Not only does this demonstrate intelligence, but it also indicates that you have high standards for yourself and for the people you are around. This rule can be extended to include using overly long words that you don’t even understand. Nothing will make you look more foolish than using a malapropism in an attempt to show off.

#9 gentlemanly gesture

No.9 - Let her sit down first

In days gone by, it was considered appropriate for a gentleman to pull out a chair for his lady. Nowadays, this is considered a little bit too formal. As a gentlemanly gesture, you should instead ensure that your lady sits down before you do. Remaining standing for that fraction longer is a mark of respect and good manners, even if she doesn’t consciously notice it. Again, this should be done in a non-ostentatious way. Don’t make it too obvious that you are waiting for her to sit down. If you need to buy time, try hanging your coats up while she sits down.     

# 10 gentlemanly gesture

No.10 - Walk outside on the sidewalk

The origins of this classic yet underused sign of being a gentleman are fascinating. By keeping her on the inside in earlier times, she would remain under the overhanging second floor balcony, which would prevent a chamber pot from being emptied on her head. It also kept her away from the traffic, while ensuring that any effluent in the open sewers would not be thrown onto her dress by a passing carriage. While sewage is less of an issue today, it is still good form to protect a woman from puddles and traffic. Intelligent women may even understand the chivalry in this gesture. Now that you know, there is no excuse for missing this. You can even impress her with some esoteric trivia if she does mention it.

the basics of chivalry

THE BASICS OF CHIVALRY

In addition to the aforementioned rules, gentlemen (in training) should follow these additional rules when in the presence of a lady. Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to come.

Always open doors
This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.

Put on her coat
Always help a lady put on her coat or overgarment. This is a simple but powerful action.

Help with her seat
If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.

Give up your seat
If a lady arrives at the table and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.

Stand at attention
Always stand when a lady enters or exits the room. This rule has been somewhat relaxed, so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit. Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should.

Give her your arm
When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground -- especially if she's wearing high heels.

Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs. 

Gentlemen, if I may call you that, these are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life. Elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman. The world will appreciate such a rarity and your career will most definitely benefit from your good manners and savoir-faire . 

For more on becoming the gentleman you want to be, check out Etiquette Of A Gentleman: Part II andEtiquette Of A Gentleman: Part III.

warnings on the treatment of ladies

• Don't stutter, mumble, or say "Um" or "Uh"; that will make her think you're bored. Take your time and think about what you want to say before you launch into some rambling tirade. Also, refrain from going off about very specialized stuff she isn't familiar with. Using words or phrases she won't understand can cause her to feel uncomfortable. For example, let's say you're a computer tech and all of the people you work with use "Computer Geek-Speak" to amuse yourselves around the office. Calling her a "n00b" isn't going to help anything! Similarly, using slang you and your co-workers invented will make her feel confused and on the outside - don't use "in-jokes". In other words, if you've developed a kind of "club" or an inside joke type of slang, she won't understand or appreciate the humor. Make sure you either clue her in and bring her to the "inside" so she can understand what you're saying, or just don't use that slang or those jokes when with her.
• If she tells you about a personal problem, don't make it your mission to take over and fix things. Just listen to her. (There are a few exceptions.) If she starts to cry, this is a big clue that she's really into you; it indicates that she trusts you enough to show she's vulnerable with you. A nice gesture here is to put your arms around her and just hold her. Don't say "Don't cry." Say, "Aww. It's going to be okay." At this point, while you don't want to try and take over, you can ask, "Can I help?" - let her answer with "No," or with "Yes, you could just hold me," or whatever, and then take it from there.
• If you exaggerate your compliments or are insincere, a girl can usually see through that.
• Make sure you're being yourself. If you act like a gentleman when you are alone with her, and then like a jerk when you're with your friends, she will catch on and you will run into trouble.
• Make sure she doesn't find out you tried to learn how to make her laugh by reading articles on the Internet, at least not until your one-year anniversary. By then, she's definitely into you and minor things like that won't hurt.
• If you like, say your sister's friend, for example, and think she may also be interested, find out from your sister if her friend likes you back. If the answer's yes, come on to her slowly. Too fast can, of course, be a turn off. Find common interests between her and yourself. If you find an interesting feature on this girl, talk about it, compliment her. But anything too pushy and your sister will probably see through this disguise and tell her friend about your secret crush. This could be a good thing if the friend is interested too, but could also be uncomfortable for you and your sister.

Tips to treating a lady

• When you are at a restaurant, sit across from her at the table (unless the table is really long, in which case you should sit next to her). Allow her to sit facing the room, while you face the wall. This way you give the impression that you require no view other than her beauty.
  
  
• Taking her to places that cost lots of money isn't necessary. Take her to the park, maybe buy ice cream on the way; that way you interact with her. If you do go to the movies, plan on going for coffee or dessert after (which means a light dinner, and less expense - bonus!) so that you can talk about what you just saw.
• Take things slow. Don't rush into an emotional or physical attachment just because you think you should.
• Look her directly in the eyes when you speak to her or when she is speaking to you. But don't be creepy about it. Staring is not considered attentiveness; it's considered weird.
• Pay careful attention to your manners at all times.
• Show that you are impressed by her, but don't forget to impress her with something different. Show you are different and sometimes crazy about life. Show her something that only you have got.
• While most young women aren't overly analyzing things, once you start dating, she's appraising you: what you do, how you dress, dates you take them on, and lots of other things. Take this into account and dress for the situation, as a good balance will keep her impressed. There's no point in dressing to impress, then being cheap about where you take her. It's like going to a nice restaurant in a tracksuit.
• Avoid the temptation to idolize her or put her on a pedestal. She is as human as you are, and the more willing you are to accept that, the less likely she is to disappoint you.
• Arrogant men don't get all the girls, confident guys do, and there's a huge difference. Women are less visually-oriented than men are, so even if you're not the most attractive guy in the world, your confidence will suggest that you're someone worth being with, and your personality will back up that suggestion. Plus, if you are kind and warm when interacting with her and with others, she will see your value without your needing to have movie-star good looks. Just act and dress like a gentleman, and everything should be sweet.
• Opening doors and pulling out chairs for the girl is not old fashioned and square, it's sweet! Any girl likes a boy who will treat her well, one who is not afraid to be sweet to her.
• Hold her close to you, and be gentle when it's necessary.
• Don't swear excessively or be crude. If you act immaturely, she is less likely to enjoy your company.
• Put yourself in her place and treat her accordingly. In other words, how would you wish to be treated, if you were her?
• Remember: no matter how hard you're working to Get The Girl, it's all but guaranteed that she is trying just as hard to find Mr. Right. A girl isn't that mystifying or distant of a creature, and she wants to loveand be loved just as much as you do.
• Hold her hand, especially if you catch her dangling it surreptitiously behind her. A girl loves the "togetherness" feeling of holding hands, not to mention you're affirming your interest in each other publicly without being crude. In other words, you're proud of her, and a man who can take pride in her will make any girl feel that they are treated well.
• When she is going to take on a challenge, take interest in what she is doing, and wish her good luck. Or maybe even explore this challenge with her? Make it interesting.
• Do not lie! It's pointless and she WILL find out. Just be yourself.
• If she's upset or angry, let her vent her feelings towards you. Talk about her problems, but don't try to take over and fix everything. You could end up making things worse for her. While she needs to handle her problem herself, if you allow her to talk it over with you, it will make her realise that you care for her. She will appreciate it, and if she goes through even more rough times, she'll know who to talk to. This will build up trust and loyalty between the two of you.
• Treat her with the same respect you would to your future wife.
• Remember to always compliment her. Just because you're going out doesn't mean she can't change her mind if she thinks you've forgotten her.
• Make sure you are yourself and if she doesnt like that there is no point of faking yourself for her to like you. Act as you would normally do.

how to treat a lady

1. Remember that every human being wants to be appreciated and treated well. The more genuine and specific you are, the better.
   
   
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   Remember that "no means no". If you're doing something that makes her uncomfortable, even something simple like hugging, stop doing it. Ask her why it made her uncomfortable, and try not to make her uncomfortable again - either don't do that thing, or wait until she tells you she's ready.
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   Respect her future. If the two of you are having or plan to have sex, make sure that it is safe, sane and consensual. Learn about safer sex, ask her if she is on the pill, and talk about your STD status. It may seem awkward, but an unplanned pregnancy or an STD would be much worse! Also, if you have had intercourse with anyone before, you can offer to be tested for HIV together, regardless of how many partners you have had. You never know if someone might have cheated on you and come in contact with it without knowing, hence passing it to you.
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   Let her talk about herself. If you say you want to get to know her better, and you then take over all the conversations, she will think you are self-centered and not very interested in her after all.
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   Find out about her hobbies by asking questions about the kind of music she likes, observing her environment, and asking about clothes or pictures she might have.
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   Compliment her. Say that her hair looks nice or that a shirt looks great on her. Then look in her eyes, and smile. Mean it. Keep it real.
   
   
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      A small gift is a nice touch
     Tell her she is pretty. No matter how average she thinks her looks may be, a girl will usually be flattered and pleased to know you think she is attractive. Say "You've got the most beautiful eyes/hair/skin/hands/etc. I've ever seen," and again, mean it!
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   Maintain good hygiene. Take a shower, put on deodorant, brush your teeth, and shave (if needed) right before you see her—every time. Nothing makes a girl more uncomfortable than body odor and/or bad breath.
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   Listen! You need to be a good listener. That works with most girls; they need someone who will patiently listen and understand them! There is a huge difference between "hearing" and "listening", so make sure you are actively listening to her.
   • Don't try to fix it' We all have a tendency to want to fix things. When a girl talks to you about a problem, she more than likely does not want you to help her fix it. She just wants you to acknowledge that she has a problem and empathize.
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   Let her know about things she might be interested in. This will show her you remembered and are thinking about her, and the things she likes.
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    Don't forget her special occasions - especially her birthday.
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    Be truthful. There is no need to lie. Being honest during the dating process means you respect her wants and needs, but you also recognize your own. If you find yourself always apologizing or trying to soothe her ruffled feathers, you need to honestly decide whether or not the two of you are a match. Treating a girl well also means recognizing this truth, and telling her in a way that hurts as little as possible — as soon as you know.
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    Make her feel comfortable. Relax and enjoy the time you spend together. Do fun things together. Bike ride, walks, movies, etc... don't just sit around or make-out all the time. Enjoy each other's company.
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    Cooperate to understand her point of view if you disagree. Repeat or reflect her feelings so that she knows you really heard her. If it makes sense to you, apologize for your actions that upset her. If you feel you were in the right, however, tell her you didn't realize your actions would hurt her and you're sorry to cause her pain, and that you'll have to consider more carefully next time. As mentioned earlier, keep it real. Do not promise never to do it again if you don't intend to keep that promise. If the thing that upsets her is a thing that is fundamental to your personality, you might not be able to change it to a degree that will make her comfortable, and that may mean you will eventually have to part ways.
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    Be real with her, and with yourself. This cannot be stressed enough. If you find yourself saying or doing something and thinking another, step back. Take a look at yourself, and ask yourself what you really want. Share that self with her, because she can and will see that you aren't everything that you say and d

in the next post

So, you want to know how to treat a girl well? Every girl is different, so not everything you do for one girl will necessarily flatter another. But there are some general things you can do to show a girl that you care.

Warning on getting a girlfriend

Don't stalk her. This will make her scared and lose all interest.

How to get a girlfriend

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   Be confident. Have good posture and body language. Bad posture gives the impression of low confidence.
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   Pick a location frequented by a significant number of girls where you feel fairly comfortable, perhaps a place that is conducive to a skill of yours: music, public speaking, or a private intimate conversation. Go out and have a good time. Guys who stare and walk around constantly looking for women can come off as creepy.
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   Be funny. If you're not naturally funny, don't try too hard around her. Situational humor in the form of dry observation is more interesting than an actual joke with a set-up and a punch-line.
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   "Plant some seeds". Flirt casually with waitresses. Make a passing comment and smile to a girl walking by. Toast a woman at the bar. Then go back to having a good time with your friends. In a short time, you'll notice women slowly gravitating to you. Just make sure you do everything nonchalantly. What is there to be nervous about? So what if you say the wrong thing? You don't know these girls anyway--what have you got to lose?
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   Connect with her. Find out what you have in common, and reward her with a smile and a story of your own if she tells you something unique about herself to which you can relate. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't. You may think you will win her over with like-mindedness, but in the end she will find you out. Find a common interest, something you both like instead. Find some thing to talk about, it will be kind of awkward if you and your girlfriend were on a date and were quiet the whole time. If you don't know what to talk about, talk about something that interests her. You can talk about things such as her interests, work, recent events, etc. Also, don't talk too much, give her a chance to talk too.
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   Look and touch. Looking into a girl's eyes shows respect and interest. A firm handshake, a gentle pat on the back, a light touch of the hand and other subtle gestures allow the girl to feel connected with the guy.
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   Show your interest. The best way to get out of the "friend trap" is to avoid it from the start. After finding common interests, make your intentions clear. Ask for her number. Give her your phone, tell her "Put your number in my phone and I'll call your phone so you'll have mine." Tell her you'd like to take her out for coffee or dinner, or whatever is appropriate for your age and interests. Never ignore your girlfriend, she might think your not interested her.